Recently, I had a few clients share their joy and pain of having a social summer. The outside barbeques, laps around the lake, and birthday celebrations, in addition to the daily anxieties of life and F.O.M.O. (fear of missing out)! Fall is usually my time for a social detox and reset. Here are my three suggestions for you this week to reset and recharge:
1. It's always OK to say NO any time of the year.
I used to say yes all the time because I felt I had to take every opportunity that came my way (scarcity mentality.) But let's be honest: saying yes to everyone, and everything, is stressful! It's definitely not good for your mental, physical and spiritual health! Your happiness will be made up of the choices that you make and if you’re not thrilled about something, or have noticed you're consistently over-committing yourself with no time to recharge yourself; just say no.
2. Say what you need out loud to yourself and honor it.
It’s possible to feel a lot of things all at once. (Hey, we're only human!) It’s impossible, however, to decipher why we feel these things and where these emotions come from, or at least it feels that way. This is why expressing and sharing them can help us figure them out. When you say how you feel, you're acknowledging their existence and recognizing that they are residing within you. You’re allowing yourself to process the emotions, hear them back, and then organize your mind.
3. Say yes to solo time and that includes vacations too.
Even the most sociable people need some alone time every now and then. Of course, surrounding yourself with people who uplift you is great and essential. There are also many benefits to enjoying some time with yourself. Balancing friends, a job, family, and obligations is a challenge and takes a lot of energy. No one can be “on” at all times. Give yourself your full attention at least once a day for 5-minutes to recharge, and make plans for solo vacation even if it's spending the weekend at a local hotel.